Meditation is considered to be somewhat of an artificial institution. Think about the process: those involved go to an uncomfortable and small roof, talk with a stranger, and their soon-to-be-ex and then discuss their children. Once the appointment is over, if an agreement has not been reached within a short period of time, then the stranger gets to make the recommendation of what they believe is best for the children involved. This doesn’t sound like much fun.
This is why it is so important for every person involved to make sure that there is absolutely no doubt that every word said is 100 percent heard and understood. Just because couples are talking with a person with is an ‘expert’ at listening, it does not automatically mean this is actually going on. It is still the responsibility of the individuals involved to ensure that everything they are saying is being heard.
One of the most common issues that many people have during these meetings is their use of pronouns. They use the pronouns in an effort to make what they are saying easier to follow, but in many cases the exact opposite occurs. By the third time someone simply references ‘she,’ her,’ or ‘him,’ most people are either lost or have checked out of the conversation. This ‘her’ could be the client’s mother, child, ex-wife, etc. It is essential to be clear in what is being said and ensure that others also understand – this may require them to repeat back the information.
Following the story being told is much easier when names or nouns are used – ‘Mom,’ ‘grandma’ or the child’s name. Taking the time to make sure that the side of the story being told is heard and understood is crucial in mediation. This will also help to provide the mediator with the information they need to make a viable decision.
In many cases, involving the services of a Salt Lake City law firm will be essential. The team at Long Okura can help ensure their client’s point of view is not only heard in mediation, but also understood by everyone else. This is essential to help ensure the desired outcome is achieved for the mediation process.